Affair Recovery

Affair Recovery

There was a period of time in our country where partners were expected to stay with their spouse after an affair. It was considered deeply shameful to divorce. The tables seem to have turned, however, as we now live in a more autonomous and self-realizing culture; it’s often expected that the ‘victim’ of an affair will leave the unfaithful spouse in order to make a statement of self-respect. Now, if you stay with your partner after they’ve had an affair, you may feel ashamed and humiliated, as though you’re not strong enough to leave. You may even hear from well-meaning friends and family that “you deserve better.”

Although the therapists at PCT are by and large hopeless romantics, we are also realists. We are under no illusions that romantic partnerships are easy, but we also know affairs happen for a multitude of reasons. Many cases of infidelity can be mended, repaired, and used as a growth opportunity for the couple. We are here to walk this excruciating journey with you- we know where the guideposts are, we know what recovery looks like. Sometimes you will feel like you’re backsliding, but it’s only a product of healing. It’s a confusing and painful experience, but often, in the end, absolutely worth it. We are here to help.

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There’s a seasonal shift happening—one that brings more daylight, backyard dinners, and sticky popsicle fingers. But for many parents, summer doesn’t feel light and breezy. It feels like pressure. The kids are out of school, routines are gone, and parental personal space evaporates. And in that wide, echoing void, a different presence rushes in: the illusion that you should be savoring every second. That illusion doesn’t soothe, it suffocates. It whispers that if you’re not loving every moment, something must be wrong with you.

In our practice, summer often brings a wave of quiet desperation. The kind of desperation where you find yourself fantasizing about a silent cabin in the woods. The kind where you dread making yet another camp lunch, feel overwhelmed by the logistics of pickup times that change weekly, and beat yourself up for not being more grateful for the chaos.

Sound familiar?

Here’s the truth: Loving your children and feeling claustrophobic around them are not contradictions. They are co-existences, which is a part of life’s gray space.

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